5 Ways To Prioritize During The Holidays

Tis the Season to be Jolly…. Bah Humbug! Are you looking forward to this holiday season? I know I am not…I used to love holidays, now I dislike them mainly because of the commercial aspect of it. I do love the spiritual side of it and what it means to be of service in the age of giving. There are so many people who are homeless this year. It hurts my heart that they don’t have a place to live and be free to celebrate in their own way. Do your best to give back to someone less fortunate than you. You will be surprised at how blessed you are.

Many of us are overwhelmed with trying to please family, friends and more. Now with so much going on in our daily lives, how do we have balance and not go into debt during this holiday season? Our rents and mortgages are extremely high, food prices have gone up and the kids are growing faster than a speeding bullet.

So, what can we do? I want to share with you five ways to prioritize during the holiday season! Here are few methods to get you through those holiday blues:

Step 1 – Pay all household bills first like Rent/Mortgage, telephone, utilities, and car & life insurance. Look for sales and start your shopping early like in July, (Back to School sales) August, and September (Labor Day sales).

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Step 2 – Create a holiday budget. If you spent over $1500.00 last year, cut that in half and pick two items per child or person (get something they really want or need). Don’t spend excessively when you know you have bills to pay first. Bring in the New Year with a few dollars. Cha-ching $$$

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Step 3 – Create a food budget, find fun new items to make with the family. Try baking holiday cookies or cupcakes. Do your home & holiday grocery shopping all in one. There are always plenty of sales on food during Thanksgiving week. Have your menu handy and focus on buying everything you need all at once. Tell your family and friends to bring a dish. Why should you be the only one cooking? Share the love.

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Step 4 – Learn to shop at discount and department stores that have creative ideas for holiday decorations, games, toys and fun products. The following stores like Five Below, Marshalls, Dollar Tree, Family Dollar and Dollar General are shops that have 25% to 75% sale offers. They usually start before the holidays, like Christmas in July. Don’t forget the stuff you bought last year that’s up in the closet. Get the family to design their own Christmas stockings and buy stocking stuffers. You can spend less than $10.00 per stocking. You can find quality items for as low as a $1.00 to fill those stockings like nail polish, cute combs, candy bars, “Hot Wheels” cars, gloves, hats, and gift cards.

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Step 5 – Organize a few weeks before. Set up your holiday table. Have fun with the family, play Christmas movies or music. Get creative, let the kids make holiday decorations. This is a fun way to keep the family together. Remember do not go broke trying to impress people in order to show them you love them by spending excessively.

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The Busy Person’s Guide to Getting Back on Track

Have you ever felt overwhelmed with work, school, your relationships, family, friends, and business? Are you busy with helping your sister or girlfriend with her problems? Are you busy with driving around your best guy friend? Are you busy just doing nothing with your life? You never find time for yourself. Well join the club. As individuals, we tend to put everything and everyone before us. We put our families, the job, and our mates before us and we tend to leave ourselves last. As if we don’t matter, I am hear to tell you that you do matter!The Busy Person's Guide to Getting back on Track You Me NYCThere are so many painful experiences that can lead to a severe breakdown.  When you constantly focus on all the things that don’t make you feel whole. When you don’t focus on your true inner self. You will begin to feel it physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I have a few friends who always put every single person they know ahead of them. They never focus on their career, their goals, their health or any type of aspiration. I tell them all the time, you have to focus on “YOU.” They all say the same thing, I know, I know. If you know, then why won’t you. They say everybody needs them. I told them NO everybody is taking advantage of you, even their families, coworkers, bosses and even our own children from teenagers through young adults. They walk all over them. When my friends and Associates tell me that they are exhausted. I tell them that they need a wake up call or a reality check.The Busy Person's Guide to Getting Back on Track You Me NYCOne of my Associates had a stroke, one had a mental breakdown, the other was in a abusive relationship and another tried to commit suicide. Many people are in estranged marriages that developed some unworthy feelings of low self-esteem, self pity, self doubt and no self love. I was astonished of what was happening to my friends. They felt as if they never  had a voice in this world except for over the phone. They realized that they needed to make some  major changes in their life. Trust me it was coming sooner than they anticipated. When it finally happened, they had no recollection that it would come to this point and it was affecting their health. Now my friends don’t know what else to do with their life.

Let me tell you, when you start to feel unworthy, depressed, suicidal, negative thoughts can creep in. You have to take control and learn how to contribute to pain and frustration. You as an individual have to get up, stand up, grow up and open up your soul. You have to take responsibility for your own actions. And when you don’t, It causes major health and mental issues. We have to learn how to get back on track and find out what fuels our fire.The Busy Person's Guide to Getting back on Track You Me NYCHere are few things that can help you get back on track with your life. When you are feeling down and out, depressed and stressed, unloved and unworthy. Take some time out to get to know YOU and harness your own personal power!!!

  • Listening to music is soothing, I love jazz, neo-soul and old school R & B
  • Go fishing, I heard fishing is one of the most relaxing hobbies
  • Yoga and meditation are soulful ways to open up your spirit
  • Dancing, is also a fun way to unwind and loosen up those muscles
  • Journaling is a poetic way to explore your creativity through writing
  • Exercising is a good way to relieve stress
  • Take a class you’ve been meaning to explore in your career field
  • Are you a sports lover? Get some tickets to your all time favorite ball game
  • Last but not least travel to an exotic place you never been to before

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“Remember in order to change your thoughts, you can learn to change the world.”

Love & Light

MAE

The Power of (Black) Women

After seeing the Black Panther movie and being part of the whole “Wakanda Movement”, Black Women are back on the map!  I know many people don’t think so…I am here to tell you, we are.  That movie showed impeccable strength, dedication, power, illumination, sense of character and family.

So many women, have no idea, of the power they instill in themselves. I can reassure you, that this is only the beginning of a new end.  When I say the beginning of a new end, I am referring to those women who think there lives are over, due to dead end jobs, family obligations, lifeless relationships and more. You can become POWERFUL.
(Willie Mae Williams my Great Grandmother)
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(Powerful Black Woman Passed at 105 years old)
Not only is it Women’s History Month, we should  be celebrating every day of our lives as to how powerful we are.  I mean power of the mind, body, and soul! What do you want from your life?  Are you afraid to go out and get what you truly desire? I know I use to be afraid to let the world see how talented I am.  I was hiding in the shadows because I didn’t have a degree, I was allowing my  peers to treat me as if I didn’t matter.  Many of them had all these so called great careers, I was making more money than they were and I never said a word.  When people brag and boast about what they have, they lose it quickly.

As a powerful woman, you must stand your ground and figure out what it is, that you want out of life. I’m a “Silent Warrior”, I kill people with kindness but I also back away slowly.  I was in the literary field for over 10 years before going over to Civil Service and now I am a published author, life coach, empowerment speaker, and giver of life.  I use to put my family and friends first and when I realized that they weren’t doing the same for me, I decided to change my life.  I woke up one Sunday morning and said “What in the world are you doing to yourself?” I was exhausted and grew to resent them.  I was unhappy because they didn’t respect me.  That’s when I said “I have to learn to respect myself and stop letting other people take advantage of me.”

As a powerful black woman, we endure so much pain.  We deal with horrible bosses, who don’t know or value our worth.  We stay in dead end relationships hoping our mates are going to change for the better.  Our children are all over the place, driving us crazy, by not succeeding in school or unwilling to participate in after school or weekend activities that we pay for.  It can wear and tear on a woman’s soul.  They say “We are at the bottom of the totem pole.”  I refuse to believe that old saying.  I think we are at the top of the totem pole.  We are just fearful on how to get to the top because we allow individuals and groups to stop us from shining.

Among my research, I found this remarkable tribe, called the “Umoja Village.”  They are a Sisterhood that believes in protecting their own.   Umoja, means “unity” in Swahili. They are an all female matriarch village founded in 1990, located near the town of Samburu County, in the capital of Nairobi.  It was founded by Rebecca Lolosoli, a Samburu woman, as a sanctuary for homeless survivors of violence against women and young girls running from forced marriages.  The women of the Samburu people, do not agree with violence and the traditional subordinate position of women.
(Umoja Village)
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(Umoja Village)
Their story moved me so much, it is similar to what I believe in.  I am a strong believer in teaching, guiding, and protecting my village.  Thanks to my Associate Myra, after a couple of weeks of researching on powerful black women.  She assisted me in finding this tribe.  If a village there in Africa can do it, then why can’t we here in America?  All my life, I heard the saying “It takes a village to raise a child.” So where are all the villages? There is a majority of black women who don’t care about assisting other black women, that’s scary, yet they are the first to complain when something doesn’t go their way.

I want you all to remember that black is the most powerful color in the world. No other color can outshine it.  No matter what, you mix it with…the black and brown are going to show up in some form of fashion.  As a black woman, I want other women to become more dynamic and look for ways to help other women become influential.  Taking baby steps is the key to becoming great. As my best friend Sinatra, always use to say to me “You are destined for greatness.” That statement is so compelling!  You see, women are powerful no matter your economic status, cultural background, neighborhood or education.  We all have something unique inside of us that is destined to soar.

I am going to give you some quick tips to become even more powerful!

Tip #1 – Stop being a people pleaser!
Tip #2 – What is your dream, aspiration or goal?
Tip #3 – Do you have a hobby or something that you are good at?
Tip #4 – Focus on one goal, dream or aspiration at a time?
Tip #5 – Learn to say NO to people and work on you!
Tip #6 – Give yourself a timeline of 30, 60 or 90 days to accomplish one goal.
Tip #7 – Don’t forget to show gratitude, to how far you’ve come in reaching your goals.

When you get the chance, check out my book “Ready Set Go, 30 Days of Motivation To Get You To The Next Level.

Blessings,
Ms. Mikki A. Ealey

BLACK PANTHER POWER – IT’S ALL ABOUT THE MESSAGE

After seeing the Black Panther movie, I was more than excited about the message the movie portrayed. For most people, this movie will go right over their heads. No, I’m not talking about all the comic book fans. I am talking about all the people who believe in the message…Did you see all the subliminal messages in the movie?

Me coming from a fraternal family, and recognizing the distinct signs in the movie had me thinking like hmmmmm. Why was this movie so popular? Let me tell some of the key factors.

Key factor #1: All BLACK cast… Image result for black pantheryes majority all black and I mean beautiful black people. I never seen so many beautiful black people on screen in years. Every movie we have a stance in, gets taken away from us by another character. Seeing men like Chadwick Boseman and Michael B. Jordan go against one another and then come back together in the end. Even as family, he still wanted to save him. That was an amazing scene, we still got each other’s back. 

Key factor #2:  A Black Woman as the General, Danai Gurira’s character Image result for women in black panther movieportrayed the power in most Single Black Women households holding it down for the family, her King and her community. No I am not excluding the fathers or other races, let’s be clear, it truly stated how women are running the show.  Her character taught us that we can still love and protect our family, friends and country. I thought that seen between Okoye and W’Kabi was moving…she would kill her own mate to save her country, that pretty much blew me away! We never show that type of power especially in a movie.

Key factor #3: A sense of pride, recognition, education and protection amongst family. Which most black families do anyway! We just don’t show it as much. We go to the end for our family. Many black families don’t realize the power they have because they are afraid to reach their highest potential or they blame other people from getting ahead in life. The role the sister Shuri played by teaching science and technology. That is something we are excellent in…how she created her own lab with all these products to use for the future. Image result for women in black panther movie

Key factor #4: A sense of community and togetherness. I loved Lupita Nyong’o message thoroughout the entire film. That is me all day! I love helping the community strive to their best self. I just wish more people would get involved in the fight for justice, freedom, equality and much more.

Key factor #5: Main key to let everyone know we are here to stay, build, grow, and guide within our nation whether folks like it or not. I was disturbed at the fact that people were upset because we all got dressed up to go see this movie. Why? Are you all upset? Other nationalities get dressed up to go to the theater, concerts, school plays, museums, and much more. I have learned that most folks are afraid to see us in a new light.

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That’s my take on the film and I hope they make a part 2 because it is well deserved. I pray that most individuals who saw the film paid more attention to the message instead of the fight scenes. I pray that our people develop a new attitude and learn more about life, science, technology, and family togetherness.