Millennial Dating – Date 2 “is it me?!”

I can’t believe after such a horrible date – he would still want to talk to me, but here we are texting back and forth. I can be honest and tell y’all now I wasn’t super moved or moved at all by our conversations but I figured hey I’m still getting to know you so it may get better.

Maybe 2 weeks after the first date and us texting, “are you free around 2, tomorrow?” He asked.

Ok here’s a shot for a better date I thought, “yea” I replied simple and to the point.

“Smorgasburg is going to be at prospect park … I think it would better if I scoop you and we go together than meet up do to no parking out there … if that’s cool with you”

“Ok, that’s cool with me,” I responded. I love Smorgasburg and it’s outside so this should be a better environment- it’s not so in my face.

“Word ….. so send you’re location on where I have to pick up the queen 😏” he eagerly texted back.

Listen sir the date is tomorrow and I’m not sure why you think I’m going to give you my house address, so I responded by giving him the intersection 2 blocks away.

The next day…

it’s now date day and I have to figure out what to wear. I’m not sure about everyone else but it takes me about 5 outfits to finally decide “Yup this is the one, I’m shutting shit down In this fit!” Well this was no exception and probably even worse – I gotta make up for the last date!

So i go through all the motions of getting ready and realize it’s 1pm and I’m not even close to ready. I start to rush and my anxiety starts to act up again and all I can think is, “Not today! I will not be embarrassed and cut a date short twice with the same person.” I start to relax my nerves and then my phone goes off, “Good afternoon miss, you ready yet” comes up on my screen.

It’s not 2 just yet – so I have some time “hey, nope not just yet.”

“What time you want me to scoop you, 2:15ish”

“Yupp that’s perfect lol”

“Say less” he responded and I proceeded to finish getting myself ready.

It was like the middle of July and HOT as hell outside, so I threw on a cute little slip dress, sandals and pulled my hair up into a wet bun and just as I finished he was outside. When he arrived I meet him at the intersection, I had previously told him to get me from. I got in his car, we hugged, he complimented me and we started on our way.

Y’all I just want to stop and say when I saw that his car was a Honda Accord I was surprised because the first thought that came to mind “he fits into that?!” I expected a truck or something a little larger than that, but hey his car, his legs, HOS comfort. Surprisingly he fit – I mean barely but he fit.

The car ride to Smorgasburg wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t anything memorable either. Of course if you’re from Brooklyn, or have just ever been to prospect park – you know how crowded it is down there and parking is HELLA HARD to come by. We drove around for 10 min, before finding a spot at a hydrant, “ummm you know that’s a hydrant right?” I asked with a bit of confusion and puzzled look. “Yea but I have this pass,” he pulls out his C.O. parking pass “we look out for each other,” he said so proudly.  I started to go on about how I thought it was a bad idea, but I thought hey it’s his car, I’m sure he knows what he’s doing.

As we walk to the park, I can see everyone staring in awe at how tall he was, hell standing next to him I was too in amazement.

“How often does someone comment on your height?” I asked

“If I had a nickel for every time I’d be rich”

“I’m sure – you’re really tall”

Before he could say something, we begin to see a bunch of people with all types of food, “I’m super excited about this.” I stated.

I absolutely love food and was super excited  about all the food we were about to be around. With a nice smile, “yea me too.” He said.

We enter Smorgasburg and the only thing I can think about is how hot it is. We picked a horrible day to go – clear blue skies and sunny. There was barely any shade so we walked around and sat in the sun. I’m not sure what exactly it was but I just wasn’t feeling him and I’ve been fighting with my anxiety since we pretty much got there.

Maybe it’s the sun and I’m psyching myself out. We both were covered in sweat, he and I were both ready to go, “wanna go to the movies.”

“Yupp, to see what?!”

I’m not going to lie I forgot what we saw- but he told me to pick the theater, so I picked fresh meadows, because It’s usually quiet there. “Oh you’re bougie,” he said.

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Excuse me – you asked me what theater and I told you a basic one and I’m bougie?! You don’t even know me well enough to jokingly call me anything but Taty, I thought. However, all I said was “no you asked me my theater choice and I advised,” trying not to seem annoyed.The ride to the theater was a little awkward, we barely spoke the first time we were in the car but now it’s like a silent car ride for-real. Maybe because I was eating, he didn’t want to interrupt me, I’m not sure but whatever.

 

By the time we got to the movie it had already started. We quickly got in and got our seats. After the movie was over we did the normal talk about it, as he drove me home (well to the intersection). When we got there we said our goodbyes and he drove off.

I didn’t let my anxiety get the best of me this date which I was really happy about,  but I definitely wasn’t moved by this young man in person and I was a little disappointed.

But hey maybe it’s me – I’ve been out of the dating world for some years now, I have to get used to it right?!

Tamron and Abby’s Fashion Error or is It

A few weeks ago, I was sitting in the Mount Sinai out patient wing, New York City, waiting for a friend’s small procedure to finish, I take a glimpse at the TV and see the “Tamron Hall Show” is on.  This happens to be the episode where Mathew Knowles introduces his new wife to the world.  Whatever, as I am trying to make headway through Knowles’ pomposity, I can’t seem to get over Tamron’s outfit.  I’ve been inspired to critique once again.

Tamron Hall | You Me NYCDon’t get me wrong however, I love Tamron and absolutely love her style.  Nevertheless, this time around something went completely wrong.  She is wearing a pinkish-purplish print, poofy dress, with a high neckline and a pair of suede leather tassel boots.  Sort of like country western meets baby-doll chic.  OK, top it off with a pair of hoop earrings and you completely have the trifecta of fashion crime because it doesn’t work out.

Now seriously, Tamron is drop dead gorgeous and I know she just recently had a child.  She’s also a former national news correspondent and I understand that she has to get a little more conservative in her dress.  However, conservative is one thing but it doesn’t have to be the only thing.  Therefore Tamron get’s a pass on this one and who knows if I’m ever going to watch her show again anyway.  Either way, would love to see her spice it up just a bit.

Moving on, to “The View”, what is Abby Huntsman wearing?  Casual awful.  An off turquoise blazer with mixed metal buttons, white top and blue jeans.  Luckily we can’t see the shoes.  Do we even want to see the shoes?  Well, apparently and I am really just guessing on this.  She’s trying to do the so called “New York Chic” or “New York Thing”.  Oops, oh know, I just saw the shoes.  Really, stilettos.

Abby Huntsman | You Me NYCThere is really nothing more to say about Huntsman except for the fact that she is really trying to get away from the “Fox News” brand of conservatism(everything skin-tight).  However, stilettos and jeans with a blazer, I don’t really know what to say with the exception, that’s it’s not a “New York Thing” or “New York Chic”.  It’s and always was a “New York Thing” according to and created by Hollywood.  In all of my years living in the city, anyone I come into contact with, male or female wearing a blazer with jeans is usually from out of town.  Let’s get with the program Abby.

I would love to go on more about this, however I am out of time.  My friend is in recovery.  By the way, if you ever have to go to Mount Sinai’s out patient services on west 59th st, it’s a great facility.  It’s really been built for anyone wired to technology.  Very comfortable surroundings with electrical outlets everywhere.

 

We Don’t Care, We Have HYDR8

Poland Spring bottled water is a product of Nestle. Is it water from an untouched source? Is it 100 percent “Spring Water”? There have been a few lawsuits against the product alleging that it’s not and they’ve been misleading the public for quite some time now. Here at You Me NYC Magazine, our thoughts on this are simple. WE DON’T CARE, WE HAVE HYDR8!!!

No more having to separate plastic bottles that go into the recycling bin or having to wait for the water delivery and the attitude that comes with it. More importantly, no more lugging the 5-gallon 40-pound plastic bottles to the cooler and spilling part of it all over you. HYDR8 is all about space and maximizing its capacity, by offering a streamlined approach, to an endless supply of purified water through your current system. In other words, HYDR8 filters the “Hell” out of your tap water by removing all impurities as well as bacteria found in your tap and then sterilizes, using the latest in advanced filtration technology. To quote Peter from You Me NYC Magazine, “HYDR8 Makes New York’s Water Taste Great Again”.

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We were fortunate to sit down with President, CEO and founder of HYDR8 Ralph Marucci(pictured in image right with business partner Eric) for a few “New York Minutes” to get to know a little more about him and his company’s mission. Saving billions of plastic water bottles from being dumped into our oceans and landfills, combined with little to no plastic usage in their equipment is only part of their vision. Building a strong customer relationship, whether it’s an individual household or fortune 500-company as well as implementing their state of the art purification systems all over the world, to developed and underdeveloped countries is the other.

According to Marucci, over the next 5 to 10 years, HYDR8 will be the household name for water purification as well as the authority in educating the public on the importance of their product to one’s health, vitality and the environment.  Marucci along with his team, has reached out through various “Social Media” outlets, schools throughout the city’s five boroughs, and word of mouth to spread HYDR8’s ideology of keeping up with the latest water quality technology, along with what makes HYDR8’s process so unique.  HYDR8 will be available all over the world, especially to those who don’t have direct access to clean drinking water.

Marucci held a few different sales positions before he decided to go into business for himself, making water his chosen industry. When asked what kind of advice he can offer to the entrepreneurs just starting out, his response was, “Understanding and achieving emotional neutrality during wins and losses is the key to longevity and minimizing stress. It’s easier said than done, but focusing on it can be the key to future success..” HYDR8 is the future of in-house water purification and we at You Me NYC Magazine are enjoying it one glass at a time. It just tastes better.

 

 

 

Frost Williamsburg Brooklyn

As we all know, Brooklyn has really blown up over the last couple of years.  Highrises going up all the time as well as cool and trendy shops popping up all over the place.  Williamsburg and it’s sought after real estate is old news.  The original fabric has pretty much dissipated in Brooklyn, except for a certain demographic that continues to profit off the “Brooklyn Boom”.  At one time Williamsburg was pretty much known for the “Peter Luger” steak house and that was it.  I can remember getting off the train and making run for it.  However, in the same neighborhood, there’s another restaurant that has stood the test of time as well.

Frost is a neighborhood Italian restaurant that all of the natives know.  It’s hard to believe that there is still a neighborhood restaurant in Brooklyn.  The fact that it’s been around since 1959 is a pretty good determinant.  It’s a family-style restaurant which is a concept that escapes most eateries in the 5 boroughs today.  Whether it’s the first time you’re walking in or you’re a longtime customer, the family atmosphere attaches itself to you.

As my readers know, I’m a big fan of Fettuccini Alfredo.  I use that dish as my deciding factor when it comes to trying out new Italian Restaurants.  However, all the menu items at Frost are delicious.  For my appetizer, I had the Portobello Mushroom, which was cooked to absolute perfection.  My entree was Frost’s “homemade stuffed shells”.  Frost also makes their own pasta on a lot of their signature dishes.  Service is another influencer when it comes to my dining experience and Frost never disappoints.

Conclusion

Frost | You Me NYCFor a true Italian Neighborhood dining experience, Frost is where you want to be.  Named after the street it’s on, you can pretty much ask anyone in the Williamsburg area where it’s at.  However, with the rapid changes happening in Brooklyn, especially in Williamsburg you better call or Google for directions.

 

193 Frost St,
Brooklyn, NY 1121

 

Barbie’s 60th Anniversary a Universal Figure

Have you ever stepped into Barbie’s Dreamhouse? As we all know, New York City has the best pop up events, with themes that are astonishing to people.  Leaving everyone wondering what events will be next.  Barbie’s 60th anniversary takes no backseat to the other popups appearing throughout the city.  Barbie has been honoring female achievement since 1959. There were many iconic females that were represented by their own Barbie dolls.

Barbie’s 60th anniversary paid tribute to real-life women and the positive roles they portrayed in their existence. Women like Amelia Earhart, Frida Kahlo, Bindi Irwin, Katherine Johnson, Yara Shahidi, Dipa Karmakar and many more. 60 years of female empowerment through a doll, making Barbie a universal figure.

This event wasn’t specifically for kids, many adults attended and participated in the event dressed as Barbie. Each wearing the loud color pink from shoes, dresses, shirts, and accessories. The event showed an overview of Barbie’s career, her fashion and the use of other miniatures to represent the diversity of the female personification today.

Barbie has evolved, coming in all shapes and sizes. It was a day of celebrating the nostalgia of one’s childhood. From entering through her closet, then her bedroom, and eventually her kitchen, made you think you were one of the Barbie Dolls as well. The dream house you’ve always admired on television, at a friend’s house or the one in your bedroom,  has come to life, right before your eyes.

This pop up was to render the last generation of firsts for young women to follow their dreams and creativity. Becoming the first of the first or the last of your generation is most inspiring. Barbie isn’t just a doll; Barbie is the person you’ve always wanted and needed to become when you were younger. She is you. The Barbie doll is a representation of you.  Like Barbie says “You can be Anything” and by the way, I participated too.

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DanceAfrica 2019

The DanceAfrica festival this year was absolutely fantastic as usual.  I expect nothing less from the largest festival dedicated to African Dance and music, returning for its 42nd year.  In case you don’t know, the festival takes place at BAM(Brooklyn Academy of Music).  I arrived just in time to get to my seat to watch each performance, one more amazing than the next.

Abdel Salaam | You Me NYCRwanda Reborn: The Remix is the title of this year’s DanceAfrica performance.  Under the leadership of artistic director Baba Abdel R. Salaam(pictured to the left, courtesy of BAM), this presentation acknowledges the 25th anniversary of the genocide against the Tutsi in Rwanda.  This production offers a moment to celebrate the path forward towards reconciliation and renewal of the devastating travesty(more than 1 million people killed within 100 days) that occurred 25 years ago in Rwanda.

Rwanda Reborn: The Remix was performed through traditional and contemporary dance, music, along with theater and spoken word.  The program demonstrates a perfect example of linking classic and modern techniques together to convey a tribute to all the lives that have been affected by past tragic events in Rwandan history.  I enjoyed every moment of this incredible theatrical arrangement.Dance Africa | You Me NYCAs the show comes to a close, I exit the theater quickly.  My usual constitution is to walk down Lafayette Ave. through the heart of the festival.  Making my way through the crowd recognizing the usual faces and vendors,  I also see a lot of new faces, shopping, eating, vending and enjoying as well.  All the vendors lining the street with beautiful and exotic merchandise for sale are such a welcome site.  The smell of food fills the air with a delicious aroma rivaling the already well-known restaurants in the area.

This is what I love about this festival.   In an area of disappearing culture due to forced gentrification constraints, it is great to see that this festival is still a staple in this community.  It brings an experience that all Brooklyn natives in the community as well as newcomers have enjoyed and took part in for years. Dance Africa | You Me NYC

 

A Pretty Face with Nothing to Back it up is Null and Void

Purposefully Pretty You Me NYC“A pretty face with nothing to back it up is null and void”, according to PurposefullyPretty Inc. a nonprofit organization seeking to reach, teach and inspire young women to identify and pursue their purpose in life. Their goal is to teach them about beauty and the importance of having a purpose, by helping them become the inspirational and determined individuals they are destined to be.

Like any other teenager, many deal with insecurities and obstacles in their life.  PurposefullyPretty founder, Diamond Craig and the PP team are women who have struggled with some to many of the same issues that young women face today.  It is their desire to mentor, guide and inspire them to reach their personal and professional goals as well as overcome the various struggles that confront them.

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PurposefullyPretty implements its mission through mentorships, community service, empowerment events, and the #IAmPurposefullyPretty workshop series. Through this workshop series, the PurposefullyPretty team travels to schools, libraries and other organizations that cater to young women; providing all the tools that they need to become the next generation of leaders and dedicated women.  This workshop series gears itself towards young women between the ages of 11-18; to help them achieve their confidence and character necessary to pursue their goals and to acquire the tools needed.  Therefore, by the end of the series, they have a better understanding of what their purpose is.

Conclusion

Some of the workshops apart from this series include ‘Identifying My Purpose’, ‘Radical Self Love’ ‘Social Media’, ‘Conflict Resolution’ and a host of others.  They can also join the PurposefullyPretty organization, by becoming a registered member.  Members benefit by establishing relationships and networking with all of its members.  Purposefully Pretty has such great opportunities from prom makeover contest to summer leadership programs.  They also collaborate with other organizations to focus on what young women are interested in!

A Leader for the People of The People

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When the news of Nipsey Hussle’s murder broke, I couldn’t believe it. I was honestly a little confused and it took a while to understand. Looking at all the social media, comparing his death to Tupac’s. I didn’t really get it but now I do. It does feel the same in a lot of ways emotionally. Even people who have never heard of him were affected by his death.

I was in the nail shop the other day as the conversation came up between a few customers. Everyone had nothing but amazing things to say. I remember hearing about the rapper who sold the first 1000 copies of his mixtape for 100.00 and made over 100,000.  Hussle was one of those rappers who were on the scene but not in it. He came up around the blue-collar rap.  He was part of the XXL freshman class with the likes of Freddie Gibbs, Jay Rock and Wiz Khalifah. 

You could tell he wasn’t in it for the perks of rap.  He was using his voice to teach a new message, by showing a different side of rap, the entrepreneur side and the mental state. Nipsey was the first rapper I heard talk about investing and buying land. He recognized the value in the message and what it would mean for his neighborhood and others. Shortly after he took a trip to Africa, he made it his mission to provide, uplift and invest in the community.

He was one of those guys that could go into any neighborhood and be good anywhere. Nipsey had that kind of respect and gave that same kind of respect in return. He knew and recognized the fact, that there are Crenshaws everywhere all over the world.  I don’t know why but when you lose someone in the Hip Hop community especially in the Black community, it feels too close to home.  The fear for black men in this country is as real as fuck.  It’s too easy to become a stain on the sidewalk always in arm’s length of that terrible phone call. It’s one of my biggest fears and I don’t feel alone on that.

With this tragedy, he brought people together and sheds light on a topic that fell upon deaf ears unless you were vegan or a conspiracy theorist.  At the time of his death, he was promoting and working on a documentary about the New York Trial in which Dr. Sebi won against The Attorney General of New York.  Dr. Sebi was being sued for not having a license to practice after advertising his cures of multiple diseases including Cancer and AIDS in 1988. He proved that you didn’t need medicine; holistic, natural remedies and a change in diet is the cure and of course, this didn’t sit well with the medical field. He brought attention to the sad truth, there’s more money in the disease than the cure.

Conclusion

I would like to thank Ermias Joseph Asghedom A.K.A Nipsey Hussle for his contributions to Hip Hop, his community and community’s worldwide. A man who truly understood his purpose and voice. A man for the people, of the people. May his soul Rest In Peace 

Shortstack: Breaking the Rules and Setting New Standards

They go by the slogan “Breaking The Rules and Setting New Standards.”  Starting out as a small fashion show straight to a mission, Shortstack is a nonprofit modeling agency for young teenage girls.  Their objective is to create opportunities for the teens, by encouraging them to embrace their inner and outer selves and helping to achieve their aspirations of becoming a model.  According to program directors, Patricia Budhan and Frannelys Frias “Shortstack is not just a modeling program, it’s also a self-esteem program. We want to help girls overcome their struggles.” This nonprofit program is a space for young girls to blossom into young women. It is also a sisterhood where anyone can reach out for advice or have a shoulder to lean on.

Throughout the program, the agency renders life lessons such as time management, networking, and how to communicate with others. Many have come out of this program finding their lifetime friend. Together the girls go through auditions, workshops, and segments, while simultaneously creating a bond with each other. Hal Eisenberg is the CEO of Windows of Opportunity Inc., which is also the parent umbrella that Shortstack 501©(3) is under.  Eisenberg, the Executive Director of Shortstack, Tracy Mangan Mignone, along with program directors Patricia Maria and Frannelys Frias steady the course of the curriculum.  Considering it takes about nine months to prepare the girls for the runway show, the Shortstack team works very hard to provide the models with their outfits, photo-shoots, sponsors, the production overall and the audience. 
As people hear the word about Shortstack, this leads to a conversation.  According to Tracy Mangan Mignone “We walked through Roosevelt Field mall and sent out packets giving people a chance to see their clothing on our runway.” As the years went by, it was easy for people to reach out and get their clothing line into the fashion show.

Conclusion

Shortstack is the vessel that advises a young girl on how to use the power of confidence to their advantage.  They want the best for these teens by showing them, they can be whatever they want to be in life.  They still continue their mission for many that were in the program.  Once a Shortstack always a Shortstack. We wish much-continued success with their mission in helping young girls build their confidence and self-esteem.

Getting to Know ToniSteelz

Toni Steelz You Me NYCToniSteelz, Brooklyn born and raised, adult-contemporary hip-hop artist has been performing ever since she was a kid.  Considering she comes from a long line of performers in her family, performing comes naturally to her.  As busy as she is, she took a few moments out of her day to allow You Me NYC to get to know a little more about her.

A day for Toni starts with an early rise and a prayer.  Then she lets the dog out to take care of his business.  Next, she dedicates an hour or two to social media and emails.  Then breakfast, yoga to follow and then she takes a walk around the neighborhood to prepare for the day and kick off her creative flow.

Michael Jackson, Janet Jackson and Queen Latifah are her musical inspirations when it comes to creating her work.  Her process requires meditation, water, snacks, trees, a pen, paper and space.  Toni Collaborates with other artists as well and finds the process to be a bit more simple.  According to Toni, it’s easier to bounce ideas off of someone else.  She will definitely work with other artists in the future.

Toni loves her work, she loves to create, meet new people and adores her fans.  When her fans reach out she reaches back.  She can’t acknowledge all of her fans, but she does try her best.  She does, however, dislike the backhandedness and the judgments that come with the territory in this industry.  However, when asked if she ever thought about leaving the performing arts and starting a new career, she replied with an emphatic “No”.  Hence why she involves herself with other aspects of the industry such as acting, writing and producing.  She is also considering other genres, like, RnB/Soul and fake singing(jokingly) as well.

With all that is going on in her life, we asked if she ever has time for herself and her response, “I make time for myself”.  Unfortunately, she learned that the hard way, after she was hospitalized for dehydration.  Toni relaxes by going to theme parks, comedy shows, traveling, hanging out, enjoying a nice bowl of pasta(her favorite food), watching television(The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel is her favorite show) and occasionally takes a “hit” of “weed”.

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Be consistent, relentless, focused and always remember to have fun which is her advice to anyone trying to get into the game.  According to Steelz, “ToniSteelz” is the future and she plans on bringing her lady friends with her.  She sees herself creating and starring in films along with a few other business ventures.  Toni is traveling on a long road and she is excited to see where it brings her.  We at You Me NYC are delighted to be a part of that journey.

 

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